Posted on February 22, 2010.
My boyfriend has long cystic fibrosis, and I have conflicts? My drinking has long-term cystic fibrosis, which is having serious lung problems. Because of this medical problem, it cannot-then guess who travel must. I saw a huge 1495 miles away from him, I live on a hill he lives in a tornado alley. 6:00 flight in an airplane to a minimum. So now that you have the idea, lets continue. I am a senior in HS, and research in colleges. I have no money for college, so when I discovered that I had a scholarship to cover 100% totally free for all state universities, I was damn pleased with myself. But he wants me to go to university there, so we can be together. the thing is, I do not know if I want to go there and lose my health insurance, maybe even get a single scholarship! (I intend to go into a major sculpture) So he cannot come up here he will die, it's a fact. But I do not know if I could support myself out there. It becomes extremely upset whenever I mention college. Id love to go there, but I do not want to incur large debts. Not to mention that I am the only one leaving my family, life, and my best friend behind. Suggestions?
It seems to me that clings to you because he does not want to be alone. But, frankly, you just start your adult life that is full of choices. It is unfortunately limited by the CF.
Living with a CF patient is a challenge. The routine required for the function takes a lot of time and energy from the CFER and sometimes significant other. It's a hard life at times. You must fill out when the patient can not. Case in point: my husband took care of our freezer this weekend because I'm having problems with my medication and felt very weak / tired in the last week. It has been more help than usual because of my problems and he has worked long hours the last week or two. This happens from time to time, but my disease progresses, it will get worse.
As a mother, I honestly feel that your friend has simply too many questions and you, as young as you do not need to take the case with the college on top. Moving cost you much more than what it is and what if you understand that you can not manage herself full time? So what? The scholarship will be lost. I agree with the writer of others who have responded .... if your love is true and strong it will survive in college.
Choose a State College near you and will learn at your leisure. If he trully loves you, he will understand and support you. If not, well, as they say ... There are other fish in the sea
Isiah ... dude, not the place for the ads.
Anyway, in my opinion, if your friend really cared about you, it would not be angry against you for doing the right thing for yourself. You must do what is good for you, which is to remain in the state, and obtain a college supported. If you two are meant to be together, your love will survive a few years of college. And it looks very much like you do most work in this relationship ... Does that sound fair to you?
Good luck, my daughter ... do his best regards to you! (He is obviously doing what is best for him!)